30PDC – 30 Positive Days Challenge to say something nice to and about your partner every day for 30 days – see details (and rules) HERE and over at Pamela’s Road to Joy site HERE.
My Days 2-4 are chronicled HERE
Day 5 – I love that he lets me sleep cold – with a fan on! I love that he doesn’t mouth and whine and get upset because I like to sleep in a cold room. He has to get up on cold cold mornings and turn the heater up to get the chill and icicles off his nose – I so appreciate that because I can’t sleep in a hot room.
Darling, you are very generous to me and I love that about you.
Day 6 – When Alpha Hubby and I were seeing one another those short weeks before we married, one evening he came over to my house and asked me a question. It seemed the question came out of the blue since we were just chatting about other subjects, but he asked, “What is a dream from your heart? One, if it were possible, that you’d want fulfilled?”
Without hesitation or thought, I blurted out, “To be able to come home and finish raising Alpha Son.” Then I remembered thinking, “Huh? Where did THAT come from?”
Alpha Hubby said, “If you want to do that, I would be honored to help you. You can do that and can write.” I know I probably stared at him like he was either crazy or a magician but it set my thoughts on fire.
For the next week or so, I tossed it around. Yes? No? Maybe? Never? Huh? I was in the beginning stages of a new career change – one that was so satisfying that I had trouble even thinking about giving it up. On the other hand, I fiercely wanted to be able to spend Alpha Son’s remaining years at home with him, to eat breakfast with him, put him on the bus, greet him when he came home, and find out about his day.
I couldn’t imagine a man willing to take on the responsibility of me being home and all that implied. A man willing to support me, believe in me, help me, and be there for me and Alpha Son. It was just inconceivable.
Baby, that day you became my first and only home, my heart, my shelter. You protect me, stand up for me, revere me, cheer me on, build me up, and honor me. You helped me erase my nightmares and exchange the dust of them for a fairy tale life – a barely-able-to-believe-for dream come true – love, true love.
Day 7 – Oh, I love how he makes me laugh until I ache. It used to make me so grrrrr that Alpha Hubby wouldn’t allow me to stay angry – if I got angry, he’d make some stupid joke and no matter how hard I tried not to laugh – I mean, I seriously wanted to keep my mad-on – I’d cave and laugh. He helps me see the ridiculous in myself because sometimes I am very ridiculous about being too serious & controlling about things that just aren’t important. He helps me (makes me) dance in the rain, run through the flower fields (because he’s chasing me), jump in the mud puddles (when he’s not rolling me in them), and enjoy life to the fullest (really). We just have so much FUN.
Thank you for helping me learn that is is perfectly OK not to be perfect – for the joy you’ve brought into my life, and for the laughter.
Day 8 – Friday (well wow, I am a day ahead of myself for a change!) – I love how he loves me in my uglies. It is easy to love someone who acts the right way, one who is perfectly lovable. Alpha Hubby? Much to my surprise, when he discovered (hahaha) that I had – uglies – I could act unreasonably – I know, I know! Who could ever believe that?? Moi??
– anyway, I could lose my temper simply because I didn’t get my way (now, now, that was early on in our marriage when I was still insecure and – shall I say it? IMMATURE!) – I was a terrible control freak because of fear. I needed to control things around me to keep them even-keel, safe, good. I learned to let that go because I already was safe – so… but before then? Watch out, buddy!
I remember the first time I needed to apologize to him. I finally figured out that acting all, “I was wrong, sorry” isn’t the same thing as saying it. Alpha Hubby is always quick to ask forgiveness. That surprised me. It was somewhere in our first year of marriage and I needed to apologize. I waited until it was dark, we were in bed, he was half asleep and I mumbled, “Umm, I’m sorry. I was wrong and blah blah blah.” Do you KNOW what he said???
“That’s OK. I love you.”
I’m still trying to figure out what his game is and when the other shoe is going to drop – what hidden agenda he has going on there. I didn’t ever hear, “Well you SHOULD be sorry” Or “You always, you never, it figures” – it’s always just “that’s OK.” Wow. Unconditional love.
THOSE JOINING US ON THIS CHALLENGE (more listed on Pamela’s current post, If you don’t have something nice to say, then you’re probably not talking about my husband!
The newest poster – I love her blog and how she loves her hubby’s ankles!!
Blue Cotton Mommy –
http://bluecottonmemory.wordpress.com/2011/04/07/simply-the-best/
Emma Major (tweeting at @emmuk74) –
http://llmcalling.blogspot.com/2011/04/30-day-say-something-nice-to-mike.html?showComment=1302217766876#c1098770758308846175
Jess at Our Side of Paradise
http://nileandjess.wordpress.com/2011/04/01/challenge-30-things-i-love-about-n-part-1/
Ridgley Johnson
http://www.savortheride.com/2011/04/04/ode-to-a-legend-day-1/
Pamela’s original post
http://pamelahutchins.com/2011/03/31/30-day-challenge-accentuate-the-positive-eliminate-the-negative/
Only You, The Platters
That is excellent! Both of you really have an intimate relationship with each other and you enjoy each others company. Having someone you really love in your side is really overwhelming. I enjoy reading your post.
That is excellent! Both of you really have an intimate relationship with each other and you enjoy each others company. Having someone you really love in your side is really overwhelming. I enjoy reading your post.
Great idea I love your concept. It is very pleasant that you have with you your special someone and the one you ever love. I’m with relationship right now and I’m happy to be with her always.You inspire me actually. Thanks for this following write ups.
Great idea I love your concept. It is very pleasant that you have with you your special someone and the one you ever love. I’m with relationship right now and I’m happy to be with her always.You inspire me actually. Thanks for this following write ups.
I love how you encourage me (bleep).
I love how you have confidence in me.
I love how you push me around.
I love how you are always thriving to better yourself and me.
I love how you don’t trash me to others when I mess up.
I love how you allow me to bulid things in a logical sequence of timing not demanding your project should get top priority.
I love how you encourage me (bleep).
I love how you have confidence in me.
I love how you push me around.
I love how you are always thriving to better yourself and me.
I love how you don’t trash me to others when I mess up.
I love how you allow me to bulid things in a logical sequence of timing not demanding your project should get top priority.
Great idea. Will have a think and may join up 🙂
Great idea. Will have a think and may join up 🙂
I love this completely. I will admit that I am not in a relationship as of now but I think you have the right concept. It is so easy to go on each day and not acknowledge the good in the person that you are sharing your life with. I look forward to trying this out one day.
I love this completely. I will admit that I am not in a relationship as of now but I think you have the right concept. It is so easy to go on each day and not acknowledge the good in the person that you are sharing your life with. I look forward to trying this out one day.
I love the idea behind this challenge. It’s always good to focus on the positive aspects of your partner and your relationship. One of the things I love about my husband is that he’s helped me realize that it’s perfectly okay to not be perfect, too.
Thanks so much for stopping by my blog for my SITS day! I really appreciate the support!
I love the idea behind this challenge. It’s always good to focus on the positive aspects of your partner and your relationship. One of the things I love about my husband is that he’s helped me realize that it’s perfectly okay to not be perfect, too.
Thanks so much for stopping by my blog for my SITS day! I really appreciate the support!
Stopping by from lady bloggers society, what a wonderful post! This challenge seems like a lovely way to remind your self how much you love your spouse. I may have to follow your example and join the challenge 🙂
Stopping by from lady bloggers society, what a wonderful post! This challenge seems like a lovely way to remind your self how much you love your spouse. I may have to follow your example and join the challenge 🙂
Hi, visiting from LBS! Happy Social Tea!
The 30PC days sounds like a great challenge & chronicling the positive makes you more aware of all the little things, doesn’t it? Sounds like you’ve got a great man, too. 🙂
Hi, visiting from LBS! Happy Social Tea!
The 30PC days sounds like a great challenge & chronicling the positive makes you more aware of all the little things, doesn’t it? Sounds like you’ve got a great man, too. 🙂
I’ve joined your 30 challenge on twitter… but I forgot to tag the first day.
I’ve joined your 30 challenge on twitter… but I forgot to tag the first day.
“He loves me in my uglies” That is a classic. That is beautiful.
xxx How coud you ever be ugly, Sweet Nan?? !!!
“He loves me in my uglies” That is a classic. That is beautiful.
xxx How coud you ever be ugly, Sweet Nan?? !!!
Day 5 – I got the fan, too! LOL
Day 6 – You made me all weepy there. True love kind of does that, when it’s a God’s gift kind of true love, the unconditional kind.
Day 7 – Doesn’t it kind of make you mad that he makes you laugh when you want to be mad? Even after 27 years, it still seems so unfair, but oh so right!
Day 8 – Asking for forgiveness is something I’m getting good at. I used to start it off, “I forgive you for. . .. . “when really it was probably really mostly my fault. I’ve learned that usually when I’m really mad, 90% of it is my issue. 10% is usually his fault. LOL
I realize that my husband is #1 – so glad you got #2! LOL
Day 5 – I got the fan, too! LOL
Day 6 – You made me all weepy there. True love kind of does that, when it’s a God’s gift kind of true love, the unconditional kind.
Day 7 – Doesn’t it kind of make you mad that he makes you laugh when you want to be mad? Even after 27 years, it still seems so unfair, but oh so right!
Day 8 – Asking for forgiveness is something I’m getting good at. I used to start it off, “I forgive you for. . .. . “when really it was probably really mostly my fault. I’ve learned that usually when I’m really mad, 90% of it is my issue. 10% is usually his fault. LOL
I realize that my husband is #1 – so glad you got #2! LOL
Woo hippo, baby 🙂
Woo hippo, baby 🙂
This was a great post. The more you write about Alpha the more I believe there really is true love out there. The kind that last forever. More importantly that after many years of marriage it can stay hot and fun.
This was a great post. The more you write about Alpha the more I believe there really is true love out there. The kind that last forever. More importantly that after many years of marriage it can stay hot and fun.