It’s kind of funny to feel like a very romantic couple, to post little tidbits of romance like you know what you’re talking about, to be held up as a standard by some, to be told “you guys help me know what real love is” – and then to have nothing to say during the “romance month” and Valentine’s Day! It’s like (*horrors*) – I have no romance left in me!
Say it ain’t so, Joe!!
OK, it ain’t so. I just can’t seem to find any words right now! Well, there is a word – a cool word – a word they used to use in historical romances all the time to describe the hero. Ennui (ahn-wee):
A feeling of utter weariness and discontent resulting from satiety
The kind of ennui that comes from having too much time on one’s
hands and too little will to find something productive to do
Synonyms: blahs, doldrums, boredom, listlessness, restlessness,
tedium, weariness
Oh no, I am not talking about my feelings for Alpha Hubby. I am talking about trying to find things “romantic”. Things romance-related. To find something DIFFERENT that is romantic. You know, like all the magazines suggest, “Keep your sex life and the romance kindled and hot-hot-hot!” Blah.
Those people don’t live in the boonies. Living in the boonies means you can’t dress up and go to the opera. You can’t take a carriage ride. You can’t even find an up-scale restaurant right around the corner…
…(you know, the kind with linen tablecloths and CLOTH napkins, real silver, candles, and waiters that DO NOT introduce themselves to you with a, “Hello, my name is Bubba and I’ll be your waiter tonight and since I’m working my way through college and really need the money I am going to interrupt you many, many times tonight to make sure you are satisfied and will leave a good tip.”).
You get the picture. We have no place to go unless we want to drive over an hour plus to get there… which sort of stifles the romance when you also have to drive back home late at night without a limo and chauffeur so you can mess around in the back seat. The lack of choices produces an unbearable ennui sometimes. It is so exhausting to search for different ways to be romantic. It means you have to THINK.
It is so bad that I asked Alpha Hubby last Saturday night, “What are we going to do for Valentine’s Day?”
He says, “I don’t know. It’s on a Tuesday which makes it kind of hard to do anything. What do you have in mind?”
I say, ‘Nothing. I’m not sure I want to do anything. I mean, I don’t want to waste any money right now because I want that master suite addition done more than anything. I don’t want us to spend money on each other.”
He says, “Yeah, I know what you mean. It would be nice to have that finished.”
Then I began thinking, “Oh my gosh is the romance dead here? Have we finally lost the honeymoon period after 18 years? Are we doooomed?”
He adds, “We could go to Rivertown BBQ if you want. So-in-so at work said it was the best. I would be glad to take you if you want to go.”
I reply, “I’ve been there. It’s okay but it is just a joint not a romantic restaurant or anything. I think I remember the BBQ being very good, though.”
He says, “Well, it’s just a thought. I would be glad to take you anywhere you want to go.”
I say, “I can pick some BBQ up and bring it home so we can eat here, on our beautiful table (that he made me), with candles and such.” (Altho truth tell I am thinking, “BBQ is not romance food.”
He says, “No, that’s work on you and not romantic.”
Silence ensures.
I say, “Well, fine then. Then we’ll do the usual. Just come home and we’ll share a glass, romantic music, candles, and have wild, hot sex.”
He says, “Works for me.”
And they say romance is dead!
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When I found you I was blessed
And I will never leave you, I need you
Chorus:
Imagine me without you
I’d be lost and so confused
I wouldn’t last a day, I’d be afraid
Without you there to see me through
Imagine me without you
Lord, you know it’s just impossible
Because of you, it’s all brand new
My life is now worthwhile
I can’t imagine me without you
Hmmm. I think I’d take your Valentine’s plans over a stiff dress and a fancy restaurant.
Hehe…have fun! 🙂
Hmmm. I think I’d take your Valentine’s plans over a stiff dress and a fancy restaurant.
Hehe…have fun! 🙂
If you love Valentine’s Day throughout the year – do you REALLY have to live it on the 14th. Take it from the woman who changes her birthday if the boys are too grumpy for it to feel “WOOHOO – CELEBRATION-ALL-ABOUT-ME-DAY” – I change it and we do that when the moods are great. We even have celebrated my husband’s winter birthday in June. We might have to have our taxes paid by a specific day – but we don’t have to celebrate LOVE only one day a week.
Besides, I love take out over candle light, a good movie, a fire place – and home!
If you love Valentine’s Day throughout the year – do you REALLY have to live it on the 14th. Take it from the woman who changes her birthday if the boys are too grumpy for it to feel “WOOHOO – CELEBRATION-ALL-ABOUT-ME-DAY” – I change it and we do that when the moods are great. We even have celebrated my husband’s winter birthday in June. We might have to have our taxes paid by a specific day – but we don’t have to celebrate LOVE only one day a week.
Besides, I love take out over candle light, a good movie, a fire place – and home!
Nothing could be finer….romance lives.
Nothing could be finer….romance lives.
I’m not a huge believer in over-the-top romantic gestures on Valentine’s day… I’m like, what’s the point? I think your plan is an awesome one, and is definitely the best of all possible worlds.
I mean, wild hot sex? How can it get better than that?
I’m not a huge believer in over-the-top romantic gestures on Valentine’s day… I’m like, what’s the point? I think your plan is an awesome one, and is definitely the best of all possible worlds.
I mean, wild hot sex? How can it get better than that?
Hi Nan;
Well, I’m from the south and we think BBQ is romantic. LOL But…Bubba for a waiter, I don’t know. I’d probably want to pass on that restaurant. Anyhoooo, whatever you two end up doing, enjoy your Valentines Day! Hugssssss.
Hi Nan;
Well, I’m from the south and we think BBQ is romantic. LOL But…Bubba for a waiter, I don’t know. I’d probably want to pass on that restaurant. Anyhoooo, whatever you two end up doing, enjoy your Valentines Day! Hugssssss.
He he he that sounds like a good plan. I hate when you stuff so much into a big night that you are too tired to be intimate, and then you wake up the next day and it’s just another day. Except that any other day with my husband is still romantic and wonderful. But I love capturing that feeling of being in the moment.
Which reminds me of a funny.
We’ve had a long stretch of getting up way too early, and at night it is just a rat race of teenagers, dinner, laundry, home renovation, you name it. So we now have a semi-regular date in reverse order, meet at the door, take nap,” then start the evening sprint, and collapse in bed and fall asleep happy. Life is short. Eat dessert first 🙂
Enjoy your Valentine’s Date. Sounds like a good plan to me!
He he he that sounds like a good plan. I hate when you stuff so much into a big night that you are too tired to be intimate, and then you wake up the next day and it’s just another day. Except that any other day with my husband is still romantic and wonderful. But I love capturing that feeling of being in the moment.
Which reminds me of a funny.
We’ve had a long stretch of getting up way too early, and at night it is just a rat race of teenagers, dinner, laundry, home renovation, you name it. So we now have a semi-regular date in reverse order, meet at the door, take nap,” then start the evening sprint, and collapse in bed and fall asleep happy. Life is short. Eat dessert first 🙂
Enjoy your Valentine’s Date. Sounds like a good plan to me!
I love it when a plan comes together!
I love it when a plan comes together!
It’s more work when you live every day in love to try and single out Valentine’s Day to do something romantic…Really? Every day I wake up next to him is romantic:)
Hard to top that.
Tracy
It’s more work when you live every day in love to try and single out Valentine’s Day to do something romantic…Really? Every day I wake up next to him is romantic:)
Hard to top that.
Tracy
–Nan,
I can think of nothing better than sharing wine, music, & hot sex.
Yes! Xx Have Fun.
–Nan,
I can think of nothing better than sharing wine, music, & hot sex.
Yes! Xx Have Fun.
OH, whine……being married to a CPA means the love month and romance don’t go together. Maybe I’ll take supper to his office and we’ll close the door…….
OH, whine……being married to a CPA means the love month and romance don’t go together. Maybe I’ll take supper to his office and we’ll close the door…….
Is it me or have you been gone longer than 30 days? I feel like you fell off the planet or something. I missed your insightful, funny and bawdy posts. This one was a great one. I like AHs reponse, “Works for me.” Such a guy!
Is it me or have you been gone longer than 30 days? I feel like you fell off the planet or something. I missed your insightful, funny and bawdy posts. This one was a great one. I like AHs reponse, “Works for me.” Such a guy!
Cute … sweet … and oh so true ~ living here in the countryside we are in the same boat. When hubby suggested we go and maybe spend a couple days at the city house … I thought Ok .. then we both realized Valentine’s falls during the week our Godson … 2 1/2 year old will be staying with us. So , we’ll be in our country home away from anything really good restaurants included. Then again pasta night with a 2 1/2 year old is a blessing to us. xo HHL
Cute … sweet … and oh so true ~ living here in the countryside we are in the same boat. When hubby suggested we go and maybe spend a couple days at the city house … I thought Ok .. then we both realized Valentine’s falls during the week our Godson … 2 1/2 year old will be staying with us. So , we’ll be in our country home away from anything really good restaurants included. Then again pasta night with a 2 1/2 year old is a blessing to us. xo HHL
I can trust you to give me a smile every time. This was so cute and that ending was so sweet. Unexpected but sweet!
I can trust you to give me a smile every time. This was so cute and that ending was so sweet. Unexpected but sweet!