30 Days Intimacy, Romance

30 Days of Intimacy: Never Say “NO”

Today I am happy to introduce you to a guest blogger who posted an amazing post last May, 2010.  I just saw it today, asked, and she graciously allowed me to post it here!

It seems a lot of couples have done a form of the intimacy challenge over this past year, as evidenced by several blogs I’ve read recently.  This couple took it a step further – they live their life this way.  And have an amazing marriage to prove it!

Meet Linda of Mama Mia McMasters!   The song I wanted to post was not available.  It is by James Taylor, one she walked down the aisle to when she got married.  Here’s a clip from You Tube.  In the meantime, we’ll just have to make do with (*sigh*) Elvis and “Love Me Tender.”

Here is what Linda has to say (and says it so cleverly!):

About Me

I always knew I’d be a missionary in some crazy country! I thought I’d be living in a grass hut or near the Amazon.  Well, I’m in a 100 year old hunting lodge instead, and working to reach the foreign land of Santa Cruz, CA with the passionate love of Jesus. It’s the adventure of a lifetime! Our kids love to invite strangers at the grocery store over for dinner or make signs to tell the hippies at the drum circle that God thinks they are special. What a privilege to have such amazing children who seem to naturally love people when I thought I had to spend years of my life to “prepare for the mission field”!

Without further ado, here is her wonderful and insightful post:

Our Favorite Rule: Never Say No

Sound like a strange rule? Well, in the beginning I didn’t know exactly how it would work out, but Never Say No has come to be our favorite and most fruitful rule. It’s not for our kids, although I’m sure they wish it was! This rule is for our marriage, specifically regarding intimacy. 

Our premarital counselor told us that she lives by this rule with her husband in that she never says, “No” when he initiates intimacy. She strongly suggested that we adopt the same policy in our marriage. Being passionately in love and looking forward to the blessings of the marriage bed we never really gave much thought to the concept of not wanting to be intimate. Why would either of us want to say, “No”? We heard her out and took to heart the idea and lived by it. 

Sure, there were times when one of us wasn’t necessarily thinking that right now was the appropriate time for intimacy, but since our minds were made up before hand about never saying no each of us got our way any time we initiated intimacy. It turned out to be a pretty sweet deal!

Really? Do we really never say no? Well, let me think about it… 

(if you want “the rest of the story” you must go to Mama Mia McMasters’ web and read it there…. it’s SO good!  Click HERE – and be sure to help out a fellow sister blogger and leave COMMENT LOVE!)

See Pamela’s blog, toward the bottom of the post, for the updated links to others who are joining us in our crazy quest

Steph has a new 30-Days post here: Momma’s Soapbox

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13 thoughts on “30 Days of Intimacy: Never Say “NO”

  1. Oh the guilt I feel now……. sigh…… Ok, not too much guilt but it has got me to thinking… I know dangerous teritory when this happens…. Of course with Hunk in another State right now I’m thinking I wouldn’t want to say no to him….. but I know there have been times that I have. Even the dreaded……”I have a headache”…. which was true when I said it, but he has assured me that it cures headaches… Never say no…. Givin’ it a go…..when he gets home….(smile)rnrnThanks for sharing Miss Nan!

  2. Thanks for featuring my post on your blog today! What an honor. Also, I would LOVE to continue this discussion with anyone who has thoughts on the subject of intimacy. This is one of my soap boxes for sure and I love a good hearty discussion. 🙂

  3. This is interesting. I had never really thought of doing that. I guess maybe it’s so ingrained in us to be selfish … that just because you might not be “in the mood” doesn’t mean that you should reject your partner. nnI feel like I have a lot to think about now.

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