30PDC Days 13-19 Always and Forever

April 18th, 2011

The past seven days have been super busy but I’m sure no busier than your lives have been.  I’ve been faithful to tell Alpha Hubby ways that I love him or ways he is wonderful.  It isn’t always easy because you tend to think you’re repeating yourself!  I think it is just that love has so many variations of the same theme – he is amazing!  Heh heh.

OK, OK, I hear you out there gagging.  Quit that.  It’s not polite.

So I want to list the next seven days since you last heard from me, but before that I have something to say.  THIS CHALLENGE IS HARD.  No, no, that’s not what I meant to say.

The other day Alpha Hubby and I got into a, ummm, elevated discussion, yeah, that’s it!  Over the most ignorant things.  Mostly because he was tired and I was too touchy.  The important thing is that in the middle of the disagreement or whatever it was, I remember thinking, “I wonder if this negates the challenge?”  Then I realized how ridiculous that was.

People who are passionate about life and one another will also have passionate disagreements.  Then they get to have passionate make-up… umm… you know.  What?  Discussions, I meant discussions. *Blush* why no, that’s not a sexy nightgown on the living room floor.  Why do you ask?  That old dustrag?  *Ahem* moving right along.

I know sometimes people believe that because I share all the positive things about this amazing relationship I have, that it’s not real or I’m not telling the truth.  It is like, if we don’t talk badly about one another, then it’s not really true.  I’m hear to tell you, it is the way it is simply because we made a choice NOT to bad mouth one another, ever.  Not even to each other.  We rarely have passionate disagreements but when we do, boy howdy!!

It may be difficult to sometimes NOT say, “You always” or “You never” sentences but we work very hard not to.  We also work hard to stay honest as in, one not thinking they are perfect while the other is always at fault.  Nah, we all know I am NEVER wrong.  Oh, hmmm, maybe that is a slight exaggeration.  Let us just say that Day #15 is that I love how he keeps me from taking myself so seriously and leave it at that.  He always fights fair, grrrrr.

Sure we have disagreements.  After all, you can’t take two strong people, put them in the same house and expect each one to always bow to the other’s way.  We had to learn – and always work on – how to fight fairly and learn when one has better insight than the other.  Doesn’t mean wrong – just better insight.  The truth is, we work to keep the honeymoon going on and on and on…

Day #13 – I love that he gets into the animated movies as much as I do – anything Pixar!  Some Disney.  Ever since the studio’s got smart enough to throw in enough adult humor – not the x-rated kind, the humor adults understand versus only little kid stuff – anyway, they realized parents were taking kids to the movies when parents were enjoying it as much as the kiddies.  Like the Penguins of Madagascar – hysterical.  Or Shrek 1-3, Ice Age 1-55, Monster’s Inc, Wall-E, Megamind, and on and on.  We have a lot of fun and laughs.

Day #14 – I love how he can make me belly laugh so much it hurts. He has a  self-deprecating sense of humor when he’s not poking fun at me!  There is laughter in the house far more than those pesky elevated discussions, and that is wholly due to Alpha Hubby’s humor.  He is so easy to live with .  I have never had one doubt that we were always going to be OK!

Day #15 – mentioned above.  My life had been so serious in so many ways but he helped me chill.

Day #16-19 – I forgot to write them down on Twitter so I can’t remember.  So I will just say here that I love how he passionately and completely loves me.  He is ferocious in his love and support for me. 

I also like how he and Alpha Son (AS) play – verbally and physically.  My all time defining moment was years ago when AS was little and Alpha Hubby and I were first married.  We were adjusting to being a family.  Alpha Son was outside in the little plastic swimming pool, playing.  Alpha Hubby suddenly got up to see how AS was doing – and when he realized AS wanted him to play, my very straight-laced, serious, anal engineering hubby stepped right into the pool with his jeans on, sat right down and played.  They splashed, laughed, and AS thought it was THE most hysterical thing – that Alpha Hubby would get in with his clothes on.  That was it for me.  My heart was a goner, always and forever.

I like how he lets me set the table and then force him to eat by candlelight using one of many sets of china and old fashioned silver (or in the above case, gold plated), linen napkins and fancy tablecloths!  No grumbling about not being able to see the food.  He is such a good sport – but more than that, he is a very romantic man.

And last but not least, I do love – I am so so so sorry here, babe.  I really am.  I can’t stand in one moment longer.  I love his – oh OK, I will say it in a way that might seem less offensive to Alpha Hubby – I love his derriere.  Looks really good in those jeans and out of them.  ‘Nuff said.  NO!  I’m not showing you guys pictures – I’d like to live through this 30 Day Positive Talking Challenge!  But if I could, I would.  Really!

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Always and Forever, Luther Vandross

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The two posts that explain it all – what we’re doing here – mine and Pamela’s from Road to Joy.

http://lbddiaries.com/blog/2011/04/01/another-30-day-challenge/

http://pamelahutchins.com/2011/03/31/30-day-challenge-accentuate-the-positive-eliminate-the-negative/

My other posts:

Days 2-4 are chronicled HERE
Days 5-8 are HERE
Days 9-13 are HERE

Others who have joined us – Pamela has people listed on her blog, too!  On some, you’ll have to check to see if they’ve posted any newer ones.

Blue Cotton Mommy –
http://bluecottonmemory.wordpress.com/2011/04/07/simply-the-best/
http://bluecottonmemory.wordpress.com/2011/04/14/simply-the-best-ii/

Emma Major (tweeting at @emmuk74) –
http://llmcalling.blogspot.com/2011/04/30-day-say-something-nice-to-mike.html?showComment=1302217766876#c1098770758308846175

Jess at Our Side of Paradise
http://nileandjess.wordpress.com/2011/04/01/challenge-30-things-i-love-about-n-part-1/

Ridgley Johnson
 http://www.savortheride.com/2011/04/04/ode-to-a-legend-day-1/

28 Responses to “30PDC Days 13-19 Always and Forever”

  1. Missy says:

    This is so cute!! I love how he just got in the pool with the little one 🙂

    Just stopping by from LBT!
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  2. Missy says:

    This is so cute!! I love how he just got in the pool with the little one 🙂

    Just stopping by from LBT!
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  3. When I was doing the post “Mama Grizzly’s Fiery Dip Recipe” my teen would NOT let me take a picture of his behind so you could see the dip can imprint. LOL – I had to take a picture of his pants from the back without him in them! Just saying! There are ways! After all, I did put the ankles in. I did!

    I think one of the most liberating moments in my marriage was early on when I realized that you can get mad and argue with someone and still love. And that person will not walk out on you and abandon you. And, my guys like yours – he fights fair – and I so agree, “grrrrrrr.” LOL

    As a child of divorce, I just want to tell you that your son is kind of living my dream – that my mom would have been wise enough to have found a man to be a real dad, giving his full heart and considering us his. I makes me weepy (must be today – LOL) joyful when I hear REAL LIFE stories like this!
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  4. When I was doing the post “Mama Grizzly’s Fiery Dip Recipe” my teen would NOT let me take a picture of his behind so you could see the dip can imprint. LOL – I had to take a picture of his pants from the back without him in them! Just saying! There are ways! After all, I did put the ankles in. I did!

    I think one of the most liberating moments in my marriage was early on when I realized that you can get mad and argue with someone and still love. And that person will not walk out on you and abandon you. And, my guys like yours – he fights fair – and I so agree, “grrrrrrr.” LOL

    As a child of divorce, I just want to tell you that your son is kind of living my dream – that my mom would have been wise enough to have found a man to be a real dad, giving his full heart and considering us his. I makes me weepy (must be today – LOL) joyful when I hear REAL LIFE stories like this!
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  5. Pamela says:

    Oh how I hate You never or You always. And I am guilty. I do it. But we work hard on not. You are inspiring — and funny — as always, my dear. Nice comment from Leland,too 🙂
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  6. Pamela says:

    Oh how I hate You never or You always. And I am guilty. I do it. But we work hard on not. You are inspiring — and funny — as always, my dear. Nice comment from Leland,too 🙂

  7. Merz says:

    Oh Nan, this is my all time favorite song from the 80’s. You always pick the best songs. Do you mainly stick with oldies? It seems that way to me. Love this post, too, especially your alphas response! What are beeps? Care to share? I’m just kidding.

  8. Merz says:

    Oh Nan, this is my all time favorite song from the 80’s. You always pick the best songs. Do you mainly stick with oldies? It seems that way to me. Love this post, too, especially your alphas response! What are beeps? Care to share? I’m just kidding.

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  10. Such a beautiful love letter of a post.

  11. Such a beautiful love letter of a post.

  12. Oh, so sweet. I love this. Its nice that you are still in love and not plotting his death for using your toothbrush.

  13. Oh, so sweet. I love this. Its nice that you are still in love and not plotting his death for using your toothbrush.

  14. JennyBean says:

    OMG. I didn’t know about the Pamela connection when I hopped over here, and then I started reading, and I was like This has Pamela Hutchins written all over it!

    Turns out I was right.

    Nice to meet you, Nan!

  15. JennyBean says:

    OMG. I didn’t know about the Pamela connection when I hopped over here, and then I started reading, and I was like This has Pamela Hutchins written all over it!

    Turns out I was right.

    Nice to meet you, Nan!

  16. Cate says:

    Very cool list Nan.

    The fighting fair one is a biggie to be sure. Trust me, after 22 1/2 years of marriage involving an Italian boy and a strong willed Aussie girl, it’s one that we often have to check ourselves on.

    Oh – and I told hubby just tonight that he has a great butt 🙂

  17. Cate says:

    Very cool list Nan.

    The fighting fair one is a biggie to be sure. Trust me, after 22 1/2 years of marriage involving an Italian boy and a strong willed Aussie girl, it’s one that we often have to check ourselves on.

    Oh – and I told hubby just tonight that he has a great butt 🙂

  18. Faith says:

    This is my first time to visit your blog. Love the challenge. You said a lot of really important things but the most important of all was to fight fair. That is what makes my own marriage so great after 35 years. I love him so I don’t want to fight with him.

  19. Faith says:

    This is my first time to visit your blog. Love the challenge. You said a lot of really important things but the most important of all was to fight fair. That is what makes my own marriage so great after 35 years. I love him so I don’t want to fight with him.

  20. Alpha says:

    I love your eyes…. oh I said that already. Well they are so nice I thought I should say it twice.

    I love how you stick up for me when others speakl badly about me. I can’t imagine why I would rub them the wrong way. They just don’t know me! After all what is there not to love???

    I love how you tell me if what I am wearing is appropriate for where I am going. Since I have known you I have been raised to levels I’ve never before thought was possible.

    I love your taste in dress attire, that you have an eye for what is falttering on me whether it be jeans or a suit. You are the one who introduced me to Armani.

    I love how you help me to stay healthy, from exercise to eating live foods.

    I can’t believe you told about my butt, now it is out there forever.

    I love your bleep, bleep, and how you do that little thing with bleep, bleep.

  21. Alpha says:

    I love your eyes…. oh I said that already. Well they are so nice I thought I should say it twice.

    I love how you stick up for me when others speakl badly about me. I can’t imagine why I would rub them the wrong way. They just don’t know me! After all what is there not to love???

    I love how you tell me if what I am wearing is appropriate for where I am going. Since I have known you I have been raised to levels I’ve never before thought was possible.

    I love your taste in dress attire, that you have an eye for what is falttering on me whether it be jeans or a suit. You are the one who introduced me to Armani.

    I love how you help me to stay healthy, from exercise to eating live foods.

    I can’t believe you told about my butt, now it is out there forever.

    I love your bleep, bleep, and how you do that little thing with bleep, bleep.

  22. ~~”Sexy nightgown on the Living Room Floor.”
    I like that.
    Nan, U continually inspire me with your positive energy and flowing love.

    ALways & Forever.

    xx Kim

    PS. You Never. You Always. WOW! So true.

  23. ~~”Sexy nightgown on the Living Room Floor.”
    I like that.
    Nan, U continually inspire me with your positive energy and flowing love.

    ALways & Forever.

    xx Kim

    PS. You Never. You Always. WOW! So true.

  24. Classic NYer says:

    I’ve been told that any statement that begins with “he never” or “he always” is probably an exaggeration and should be rethought.

    And hey, since when is “my baby got a nice badonkadonk” offensive? Live out loud!

  25. Classic NYer says:

    I’ve been told that any statement that begins with “he never” or “he always” is probably an exaggeration and should be rethought.

    And hey, since when is “my baby got a nice badonkadonk” offensive? Live out loud!

  26. Sue says:

    another song I love. i had forgotten all about Luther Vandross’ version of this song. so smooth! i think most women have no clue how to treat their men or even know what real love is. it may take work but it isn’t what most people think when you say work. it is a privilege and investment into the relationship. you’re doing a great job here.

  27. Sue says:

    another song I love. i had forgotten all about Luther Vandross’ version of this song. so smooth! i think most women have no clue how to treat their men or even know what real love is. it may take work but it isn’t what most people think when you say work. it is a privilege and investment into the relationship. you’re doing a great job here.

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