This is one of my most favorite songs – and I’ve never even seen the movie Casablanca.  What most people don’t know is that the song was not written to start with “You must remember this” – there were actually three verses prior and “you must remember this” was part of the chorus.

So when Ilsa told Sam to “Play it, Sam, play ‘As Time Goes By'”, the song sung by Dooley Wilson in Casablanca (and here) didn’t include those verses in the movie.  Probably time constraints.  It’s a shame, really, because it explained so much about the song.

This day and age we’re living in
Gives cause for apprehension
With speed and new invention
And things like fourth dimension.

Yet we get a trifle weary
With Mr. Einstein’s theory.
So we must get down to earth at times
Relax, relieve the tension

And no matter what the progress
Or what may yet be proved
The simple facts of life are such
They cannot be removed.

Even though this was written in 1931, those verses still fit today.  It really does still boil down to “the simple facts of life”… that they really “are such (that) they cannot be removed.”  Love and lovers.  Some things never change over time; they are fundamental.

You must remember this
A kiss is still a kiss
A sigh is just a sigh
The fundamental things apply
As time goes by

It is those couples who retain those fundamentals, who remember what is important and what fundamentals really apply as time goes by, who will remain lovers their entire lives.  We really need those kisses.  We really need those *sighs* caught in between two lovers as they touch, ache, love.  We really need romance, passion, and the feelings that go along with the committment.  Without the fundamentals, love can wither.  Without love, there is nothing.

Kissing, sighing, loving are fundamental to an intimate relationship.  Romance is a fundamental.  Touch is fundamental.  The things of life are there (children, bills, jobs, friends, other family), but they should never interfere or interrupt those fundamentals of life between lovers.

And when two lovers woo
They still say I love you
On that you can rely
No matter what the future brings
As time goes by

It is necessary to woo and keep wooing.  I love that word “woo”.  The original meaning was “to court a woman.”  Better is “To seek the affection of with intent to romance” which goes both ways.  Best are the synonyms – “to court, pursue, chase.”  Woo, court, pursue, chase – fundamentals to any relationship!

When a couple first meet, they woo, they court, they pursue, they chase.  A dance that leads to intimacy, to becoming a couple.  Now here is another fundamental:  KEEP IT UP.  My mom once said to me, “Just because you marry doesn’t mean to stop doing what it was that caught the attention in the first place.”

That is a fundamental I find myself working on all the time – keeping up the earlier fundamentals.  I have areas I haven’t done well in but he still woos me.  I need to be woo-worthy!  To be that woman he first married, only better now.

Moonlight and love songs
Never out of date
Hearts full of passion
Jealousy and hate
Woman needs man
And man must have his mate
That, no one can deny

Although we work to keep jealousy and hate out of our life space, Alpha Hubby is everything to me.  I do need him (of course, he must have me to live!).   He saved me.  He helped me heal.  He gave me the sweetest dreams to replace the nightmares.   He pushed and prodded me into being confident enough to re-seek my best me.  Could I have found myself without him?  Sure.  But he made the journey shorter and sweeter, and gave me the one thing I’d never had before – a backup, support, a foundation to lean on, and the power of BELIEF.

It’s still the same old story
A fight for love and glory
A case of do or die
The world will always welcome lovers
As time goes by

He believes in me.  He is fierce about it.  He had to be (and occasionally still has to) in order to convince me.  His belief is what gave me the ability to put the past behind me once and for all, and to seek to be a stronger, whole me.   To pursue my dreams whole-heartedly.

There is power in knowing someone is there to catch me, prop me up then PUSH me back out there to go at it again.   To be surrounded in complete acceptance is a heady experience.  He has given me THE fairy tale.  He helped me kill the wicked witch then gave me the weapons to go stomp out those imps who would cause me to doubt myself.

A fairy tale ending.  We really did ride off into the sunset toward a better life together.  We live it.  Why?  Because we do not forget those fundamentals… as time goes by.

Oh man, I need to lighten up!

I kissed a frog.  And I liked it.

Heh heh heh.