Luv: In His Own Words

February 14th, 2011

(Continuation of February Luv Posts.  I asked Alpha Hubby to write a post on his take of love and this is what he whipped out at work and gave to me, grudgingly!  He hates it and feels exposed but he did this because he loves me. He’s more of an action-type guy, but I think he did a good job, don’t you?!)

Love!  Big word.  What is love?  It means different things to each of us. 

Some think it is a feeling that makes them happy (the focus is on them).  Some think if they do a kind act that love will respond back and do something back for them (again the focus is on them).  Some guys think if they take her out to dinner and a movie, she should respond accordingly.  She should be melting before his gifts of love and then sacrifice herself on his altar of love. (oh groan and smile babe, N)

But for me, love is a little different.  I see it as an action verb (word).  Words are cheap; if there is no action behind them, they are just words that die and are meaningless. 

Put action to love and it will grow and become something special and amazing.  The result is something that you will be in awe of when you step back and look at it.  Love plus action will paint a tapestry for your life that will be unique to you alone.  How awe-inspiring the tapestry will be is up to you. 

For me it means when I do something for my lady, I do it without expecting anything in return.  It is done from the heart, desiring the best for her.  It is not something half-baked.  It is a gift and it should be my best.  Why should my lady be pleased with a gift that is less than my best? 

I am only speaking of my side.  I can not speak of what her reaction will be but from experience with my lady, the rewards are always above and beyond all I could ask or even dream of.  Just for the lady to recognize me would be awesome. 

I apparently had a strange life prior to my true love.  Be it as it may, the lady I speak of is the one who said yes to me 17 years ago.  I did not give her something expecting anything in return.  I gave to please her or to enhance her.  The journey has been breathtaking, full of romance and laughter.  As I said, I would never know (or expect) what reward would be given to me but they were always great.  Like: 

We had been seeing each other in secret (only because we worked at the same place) and I was following her vehicle in mine after a ballgame we’d attended and she stopped at the stop sign, got out of her car and came back to mine and kissed me like, “wow!” and then got back in her car and drove off.   Now that was awesome.  My thought, “What was that?  I don’t know but I liked it!”  Couldn’t think of anything else for some time! 

She is full of surprises.  When I come home from a long day with no knowledge of what is about to be, I might find the house dimly lit with the flickering of candles leading the way to a table where I find a note instructing me what to do.  Further following the softly lit trail I find a seductress awaiting me to whom I am about to become prey.  WOW! 

Early in the marriage, there was one time I worked very late and I did not give the courtesy call to say, “Babe, I will be late,” not having a clue that she had planned a rendezvous.  Needless to say when I arrived at the house it was not dimly lit, it was dark.  I turned on the light and I found a trail of candles not lit and a trail of sexy clothing, heels here and a sheer top there.  At that point I knew I had messed up.  I did find her at the end of the trail, and my heart just sank.  My lack of consideration caused this, of not putting her first over my work. 

She was crying because she didn’t know if I had been in a wreck or if I had turned out to be like all the other guys in her life.  I never made that mistake again.  Love considers the other, regardless. 

The rendezvous’ continue, they add the mystery and intrigue to our life together.  I picked up a fine looking lady at a bar one night and she made me glad that I was a man.  No one will know what went on behind those closed doors!  OK, to clear it up, the bar was in our kitchen and the fine looking lady was my wife, who vamped me.  We have fun.

So there it is, love from my view.  Love.  It makes life worth living.  It makes me laugh.  She still loves me when I make mistakes.  She laughs at my corny jokes.  She ties her dreams to mine.  She supports me in every endeavor, and she has the courage to tell me gently if I am off the mark.  She loves me when my hair is messed up and when my armor is not so shiny.  She is the bling on my arm. 

Love is an action and for every action there is a reaction. 

I say this to my love, “BayBay, everything is going to be all right!”

*Little Red Riding Hood (Sam the Sham and the Pharaohs) (Alpha Hubby’s Fave song for us)

**Notice she’s wearing a little black dress!!

26 Responses to “Luv: In His Own Words”

  1. Helene Abbate says:

    That was great, you are so sweet. You are similar with my boyfriend, he is going to propose me and by that proposal I conclude to myself that he is truly love me.

  2. Helene Abbate says:

    That was great, you are so sweet. You are similar with my boyfriend, he is going to propose me and by that proposal I conclude to myself that he is truly love me.

  3. Alpha says:

    BayBay hear the roar!

  4. Alpha says:

    BayBay hear the roar!

  5. Sue says:

    I just love when a guy is this supportive. I also like the glimpse into the male psyche!

  6. Sue says:

    I just love when a guy is this supportive. I also like the glimpse into the male psyche!

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  9. Maggie S. says:

    Stopping by from SITS. What a man. What a lucky couple.

  10. Maggie S. says:

    Stopping by from SITS. What a man. What a lucky couple.

  11. Pamela says:

    The Alpha Hubby is awesome 🙂
    I think it is so wonderful that you wrote this for her and about her. Yay Leland!
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  12. Pamela says:

    The Alpha Hubby is awesome 🙂
    I think it is so wonderful that you wrote this for her and about her. Yay Leland!
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  13. Karen says:

    Love is writing a post for your wife’s blog:) Sweet.

  14. Karen says:

    Love is writing a post for your wife’s blog:) Sweet.

  15. Natalie says:

    I do have to say that my husband would never do this. I’ve asked him to and he refused. Now I am going to show him that there are men out there who have the guts to do this. I really like what your husband said about love being action. It is interesting to read from a man’s point of view. They like action, don’t they?

  16. Natalie says:

    I do have to say that my husband would never do this. I’ve asked him to and he refused. Now I am going to show him that there are men out there who have the guts to do this. I really like what your husband said about love being action. It is interesting to read from a man’s point of view. They like action, don’t they?

  17. shawn seay says:

    Very Sweet!
    Hope you 2 are having a fab valentines day!
    XO

  18. shawn seay says:

    Very Sweet!
    Hope you 2 are having a fab valentines day!
    XO

  19. Yes, Alpha Hubby,

    Love is a VERB.

    Brava. Bravo. Fab.

    ~~~You & Nan are blessed to have one another !!!

  20. Yes, Alpha Hubby,

    Love is a VERB.

    Brava. Bravo. Fab.

    ~~~You & Nan are blessed to have one another !!!

  21. Sarah says:

    You two must have an amazing relationship. But did you do all this with kids at home? I think that makes it harder.

  22. Sarah says:

    You two must have an amazing relationship. But did you do all this with kids at home? I think that makes it harder.

  23. Merz says:

    Awww. That is so sweet. I like his take on love because if every guy thought that way, life would be better for all of us!

  24. Merz says:

    Awww. That is so sweet. I like his take on love because if every guy thought that way, life would be better for all of us!

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