Is your relationship focused on everything but one another?
Have you had trouble making time for yourselves?
Baby, when it comes to making time for sex, don’t let that gauge get too low!
Sex. I know some of you are asking yourselves, “What’s that?” since it’s been so long. I’m sorry. I didn’t meant to remind you of what you’re missing out on!
Sometimes keeping things fueled up (sorry) may or may not involve things like
These (even if they are plus sized):
Which may or may not lead to:
Which may or may not interest you. Heh heh heh.
I am by no means an expert. I have, however, been married 16.11 years and our sex life (can I say that on here?) has gotten better, hotter, steamier, more fun, umm, wait a minute let me go check out a thesaurus: red hot, sexier, sensual, romantic, spicy, impassioned, amorous, blahdy, blahdy, blah.
So I’m sure you’re wondering “what’s her point?” Well, that one pix of all the lingerie? It isn’t that you have to wear any of that (which, as we all know, can strangle). The point is that you should do things that make you feel, think, do, and be sexy for him (and for yourself). Most men actually are very visual and appreciate any prettifying up his woman will do for him. It makes them feel loved and special.
Even if it’s hard to do, schedule it into your day. Slather on that lotion. Paint those toenails. Spray that cologne, both on yourself and on your sheets… speaking of which, we have his, hers and ours cologne – some he loves on me and some he doesn’t. I use “his” cologne during these times. Sometimes just catching a whiff of that scent lets him know he’s getting lucky tonight!! Oh come on, we’ll all adults here.
Set the atmosphere – a clean seducing room, candles, scent, the whole 9 yards. Do the seductive things you do and do them often. I can tell you that *most* men love seduction and sexy, and seduction and sexy are all about attitude first, clothing, etc., secondly.
Yes, I know a lot of you have kids at home – if you have to get a babysitter, get one. If you can only grab some time to kiss good-bye and hello during the day, do so! If you can only get together after everyone is in bed, then for goodness sakes, be sure and LOCK the bedroom door and get together. And that room is your sanctuary away from all the nattering things of the world – bills, kids, work, whatever. Make sure it IS a sanctuary. That’s why we don’t have a television in our bedroom – that is not one of the two things we do in there. *Ahem*
It is so important to not let this part of your marriage drop even if it seems so much easier to just let it and yourself go ’cause, “oh my gosh I am so tired and the kids drove me nuts and I haven’t had a second to myself and who the heck has time for pampering myself much less getting in the mood and switching from mommy to wife just to have sex?”
For your own peace of mind and self esteem (not to mention hubby’s who, by the way, does not want to make love to mommy; he wants that beautiful woman he met, fell in love with and married), it is important to take care of “you” in this area. Why? Because you ARE so beautiful to him and should be to yourself.
One aspect of love is to be what your partner needs. It is important to never forget that sexy is as sexy does and yes, it’s OK to be and feel sexy no matter what size you are or aren’t! God created us to be attracted to one another. Just like He created candles. I know. Hey, people think we light candles to make the room sexy. We light candles to hide ourselves in the flickering light (dark) ’cause they say everyone looks more beautiful by candlelight (smile)!
No, seriously, setting an atmosphere is important but not THAT important. Sometimes ya just gotta jump in when the time is right (kids on a play date? Whoo hoo!). Spontaneous is great. Planned is great. There will be peace in the valley… when that gauge is full! Alpha Hubby’s take is anything anytime anywhere, just pull a Nike:
Just (make time to):
*Makin’ Whoopee, Rod Stewart, Elton John
*I’m In The Mood For Love, Peter Smith
*The Way You Look Tonight, Harry Connick, Jr.