Love Letter to Alpha Hubby

August 21st, 2013

I was thinking the other day about how a lot of people will pick a story from their life to blog about then exaggerate it to make it stronger or funnier or more poignant.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with that but I don’t do that.  It takes skills I don’t have. What you see (read) is what you get.  It is the truth of my life.

Someone once asked me, “Is your Alpha Hubby really like that?”  Yes, yes he is.  This song could have been written about him:

or here cut and paste: https://youtu.be/pS2zOqG1sIo

They read you Cinderella – you hoped it would come true
That one day your Prince Charming
Would come rescue you

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Believing the Fairy Tale

It is kind of funny how we were fed fairy tales when we were younger and we don’t realize how they stick with us as we grow up.  Even after life as proven differently, they do.  I never felt I needed rescuing but I always thought maybe, just maybe, there was a Prince Charming somewhere out there.  Someone who would look at me and really SEE me.

You like romantic movies, you never will forget
The way you felt when Romeo kissed Juliet
All this time that you’ve been waiting
You don’t have to wait no more

I always was, deep down inside – very, very hiding away deep – a romantic.  Even after life dealt me some pretty vicious blows, the small, tiny ember of hope, want, maybe even faith, flickered and never quite went out.  Outwardly I never believed it could come to pass.  Never.  But deep down where the truth of whom we really are lives?  It never died.

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There could be someone who would love me unconditionally, never lie, never cheat, never steal my heart and drop what was left of me by the wayside, couldn’t there?

 

Then one day after years of toads and frogs, he was there.  Leaning up against a work cubicle doorway smiling at me.  He asked an innocuous question which led to an hour-long chat fest in my cubicle.  By the time he left the cubicle I’d agreed to go, a month later, to a church Valentine party with him.  To rescue him from a stalker.  I was a little shell-shocked that he’d asked and that I’d said yes, without thinking it out first.  

[Chorus]
I can love you like that – I would make you my world
Move heaven and earth – if you were my girl
I will give you my heart – be all that you need
Show you you’re everything – that’s precious to me
If you give me a chance
I can love you like that

One evening during one of many long conversations, I explained how someone had once told me I loved too much.  I will never forget what he said.  He smiled gently and replied, “Well, it is a good thing that I need a lot of love then, isn’t it?”

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There were times he would place his palm on my cheek and look into my eyes.  That was hard for me.  I would feel too exposed, too open, and would always look away.  I asked him why he did that.  He said that it showed him where I was, what was in my heart.

I never make a promise I don’t intend to keep
So when I say forever, forever’s what I mean
I’m no Casanova, but I swear this much is true
I’ll be holding nothing back when it comes to you
You dream of love that’s everlasting
Well, baby open up your eyes

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From the very beginning, he began showing me that I was precious to him.  He never played games, he really never made a promise he didn’t intend to keep, he never lied.  Ever.  His whole focus was on me.  His entire goal was to make me, not only happy, but aware of who I was.

You want tenderness
I’ve got tenderness
And I see through to the heart of you
If you want a man who understands
You don’t have to look very far

He spent so much time helping me find my lost self simply because he saw my into heart and wanted me to see it, too.  That’s what he told me.  He said that that day in my cubicle, God showed him my true heart, the one no other man saw.  He saw it and he wanted it, wanted it given to him.

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Trust

He saw my fears, my hurts, my tears, my hidden gentle woman.  He saw the one hidden behind the woman who had to be super strong to survive the life she was living; the one who cried at mushy commercials and romantic movies but never let anyone see.  He saw a woman longing to be understood, seen, loved unconditionally.  He saw ME.  And he loved me.  And he actually said to me:  “I can love you like that.  Hook your dreams up with mine.  I will take care of your heart.  I will protect and cherish you. Trust me and I will never drop you.”

And for 22 years, 11 months, 4 weeks, he has kept his words and promises.  Baby, I love the way you love me.

19 Responses to “Love Letter to Alpha Hubby”

  1. Adryon says:

    I’ve always loved your love with ‘alpha.’

    On a side note, the hand on the cheek thing – melts me like butter.

  2. Bella says:

    Nan, I just got back from Spain! ha! I’m already missing the churros and good wine! hee hee! I’ve always said that your relationship and Alpha Hubby is the stuff dreams are made of. It really is! You are both blessed to be in each others lives and to enjoy love the way you do. To think millions go through their day to day wishing they had a significant other who understands them the way your Alpha Hubby appears to understand you! Hang on to that man, lady! Hugs! 🙂

    • nan @ lbddiaries says:

      Bella, Bella, Bella! I’ve been missing YOU. I used to be one of those millions who only dreamed of what I have now – and we both agree, it could be better! I have him tied up; he’s going no where (smile).

  3. lisa thomson says:

    what a beautiful love story! You give hope to many women, still searching. I had tears. p.s. I remember that song when it first came out, was it Luther Van Dross or some 80’s Crooner? I loved it then and this is a nice cover.
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    • nan @ lbddiaries says:

      Believe it or not, Montgomery sang it first in 1995. I think you’re remembering the one I do – sung by All 4 One, A R&B group who sang a BEAUTIFUL cover, also in 1995.

  4. Nancygrayce says:

    Ok, although the Superhero would never put it into those words, he loves me like that and shows it every day, even in the midst of a long clogging session on my part! I’m going to send him an email with this song! Thanks!!
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    • nan @ lbddiaries says:

      Hope he loved the song because from what you’ve said, he truly does “love you like that!”

  5. This is beautiful both so lucky to have come together. Your love brings healing to this universe this I know. BTW still laughing at the twerking comment. 🙂
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    • nan @ lbddiaries says:

      Yeah, once I found out what twerking was, yuck. No real lady would do that. That you for saying that about our love – it is beyond anything I dreamed of.

  6. Lisa says:

    Thank you Nan for sharing, your life is always an inspiration. Hopefully I’ll find what you have one day.

    Lisa x

    • nan @ lbddiaries says:

      I wasn’t looking when he found me – and he wasn’t looking either. God truly led us to one another and I am forever grateful.

  7. **Then one day after years of toads and frogs, he was there. Leaning up against a work cubicle doorway smiling at me.**

    I can visualize this. Beautiful. You are both beautiful. Xxxxx

    LOVE from MN>
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  8. alpha says:

    A fairy tale? True! Not that I didn’t have some ruff edges. Well, maybe a lot. The damsel that I wanted to rescue was you. You were more than I could hope or even dream for. I found a jewel and I wanted it badly but only if it felt the same about me. I could love it like it needed to be and I could protect it like it needed to be. I could help in become all that it could be. You are the jewel for me. My damsel! You cannot love me too much. Beneath the ruff exterior I am a sponge that can take all the love you can give.

    • nan @ lbddiaries says:

      What I love is that your love for me is never-ending and gets better and stronger as time goes by. You are all that, baby!

  9. Tracy Wilson says:

    Nan I frequently chuckle when I read about your life because although JC and I haven’t been together as long as you and Alpha Hubby, our relationships are very similiar. I did believe in happy endings, just for other people. I never saw one for myself.

    Until I looked at JC…he always brought peace to my heart. And he still does.
    LOL- when he’s not pushing my buttons. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

    Thank you for making my heart smile this morning 🙂
    Tracy

    • nan @ lbddiaries says:

      I love that you and JC have this, too. It is such a blessing and yes, Alpha Hubby brought peace to my heart, too. Oh yeah, buttoms – but make up s&x is what it’s all about!

  10. You and Alpha Hubby are a wonderful reminder that unconditional love and romance still exist. And yes, it does come with some work on both parts. Thank you for sharing your fairy tale ~ it is an inspiration to go the extra mile in a relationship. Hugs and blessings, C. (HHL)
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    • nan @ lbddiaries says:

      Living in this fairy tale is truly worth all the work we put into our relationship. He is truly a Knight in Shining Armour.

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